The Love Den Diaries Volume 3 – Sucker Punched By Love – Introduction

Stealth: Adjective- Surreptitious; secret; not openly acknowledged. secret, clandestine, or surreptitious procedure. The act or characteristic of moving with extreme care and quietness, esp as to avoid detection. You’re in love with someone. They haven’t laid a hand on you, yet you can feel in your spirit that something is not quite right. You are wise not to ignore that sensation in your gut. What you are feeling is the cold calculating sting of Ambient/Stealth abuse. It is a very subtle form of abuse that often goes unnoticed by the victims until it is too late. This is a common form of abuse used by individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Social Paths, and the emotionally unattached.

 Everyone at some time or another in their life has been kicked in the ass by love. We think we have met what we believe to be the perfect person for us. We go on to date them, shack up with them, and even marry them. Everything smells like roses as love is in the air. Then all of a sudden it changes. Mr/Misses super nice turns out to be not so nice. As a matter of fact they turn out to be a damn loon. Your dream guy/girl ends up being a liar, cheater, abuser, or all of the above. And we have to ask ourselves was it really all of a sudden? Were there always warning signs there be we just refused to see them? Most experts would agree that a person will always leak certain traits about themselves in the beginning. However we are so clouded by love or what we THINK is love that we can’t see past their beautiful eyes or awesome smile. As I have stated before I am not a therapist or a love coach but I can share the knowledge that I have learned from my own relationships as well as the experiences that others have shared with me via emails, letters, and on the show I cohost, Chattin with Candace and Midnite. All too often we caught up with someone and fall in love with them only to realize they have more issues than a subscription to Sports Illustrated. Keep in mind there are some master players out there. And if you are ”green” to the game, you will most definitely become a victim. There are abusers that have honed their craft so well that they can not only fool an unsuspecting victim, but a trained professional as well. Manipulation is their first name, ambiguity is their middle, and destruction is their last.

​In this volume of The Love Den Diaries Volume 3- Sucker Punched By Love I will help you spot the warning signs of this type of abuser before they have a chance to break your heart. If you are in fact already in a relationship with someone who fits the descriptions listed in this book it will help guide you in the right direction by serving as a starting point on the path to understanding and healing from this type of abuse. Most people can recognize abuse if it’s blatantly in their face. Such as a person verbally or physically abusing them. However what about the wolves in sheep’s clothing? The ones that pretend to be so sweet, but in reality you are in the presence of a narcissistic social-path. These types of abusers are the hardest to spot and even harder to catch. Due to the fact that they are usually what society deems as beautiful or handsome, smart, charismatic, charming, and flattering. In short they are loved by everyone. At least to those who haven’t figured them out yet. Most people can not fathom the though of someone being so calloused. The ONLY way to have an edge with them is to be aware of their next move before they make it. This may seem impossible, however, once you figure out their personality most abusers are as predictable as the day is long. In this volume you will not only learn how recognize these type of people before they slither their way into your life. You will also learn the role YOU play in the abuser’s life and how Your personality may actually even be an abuse magnet.  There is a saying that goes when you know better you do better. This is your time to do better. This is your time to stop wondering and guessing what’s going on with that loved on that started out so nice and later pulled a Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde. At times there will be ah ha moments. At others there will be sadness and anger as we dive head first into the reality of what it feels like to be Sucker Punched By Love.

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